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Tuesday May 15th, 2012

From Breakup to Shakeup: A Guest Post by Kristen

Kristen Costa is a lover of all things history, books, and research. Her day job is as a museum curator but loves sharing her passion for writing and the written word with the world. She lives in Massachusetts, but on the border of RI so calls both states home. She currently is living on her own for the first time ( at the age of 29!) and loving every single minute of it. Follow Kristen on Twitter @KristenCurator, and discover more from her blog, Life by Kristen.

 

My recent foray into redecorating was not just because I was getting tired of looking at the same walls and ugly paintings after three years. After a painful first year of marriage that came with an anniversary present of six months of couples counseling, my now ex-husband and I decided to call it quits. In the long period of time it took for him to move all of his items out of our space, I longed to clear the air and rid the house of his items. It was hard for me to think about moving on and starting this new single life when his oversized couch, bed, and bureaus cluttered the small living space and bedroom. It may seem trivial, but I could not focus on myself when I was surrounded by so much of him and his stuff.

The clearing of his junk allowed me to really see the place for what it was. It was not cluttered with his hand me down, bulky furniture and the walls were not littered with subpar paintings and visuals fit only for a 2-star hotel. Because he had so much stuff in the house, I never noticed how much sunlight the living room gets or how beautiful the original 1930s moldings are.

It’s important when a significant other moves out to really clean out all the clutter- not just from him or her’s belongings, but anything you don’t love either. I started going through the house and getting rid of items that never really made me that happy, put things out that I liked, and so on. For example, my ex-husband really disliked anything on the kitchen counter and so my much loved and often used red Kitchen Aid Mixer sat in the dining room closet. It was always a pain to lug it out each time I used it; it also never seemed fair that I had to relegate one of my favorite ‘things’ to the closet while so many of his things were out in the open (I don’t know about some of you, but hockey championship posters is not my idea of an adult’s living room decoration.)

In addition to thinking about the ‘stuff’ around me, I also did a massive cleaning: mopped the kitchen floor, cleaned the tile grout with an electric toothbrush, and vacuumed the back of the fridge. I went into every nook and cranny trying to get rid of the dust and dirt that I had neglected during the days of endless arguments and avoiding the house and him. The cleaning was also incredibly cathartic- scrubbing at hardened rust stains or getting dust out of the tiniest crannies really let me get a lot of frustrations out.  I did something a bit ‘woo-woo’ even for me and burned some sage in each room- a move to clear the bad energy in the house and have a fresh beginning.

Re doing the house when you are on your own for the first time ( in my case, first time single in about five years and first time I’d lived alone EVER) really allows you to feel empowered, strong, and confident in the decision you’ve made for life. The scary moments of spending a Saturday night in alone were few and far between after his stuff left because I was making my house into the way I wanted it and creating a joyful living situation. It’s exciting to know that everything is how I want it to be, right down to the carefully selected turquoise duvet cover. Breakups aren’t easy especially after so many years together, but making your home your happy place will be a huge step in the right direction to move forward in life.

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Sunday April 22nd, 2012

That Time I Wrote a Super Short Post (But It’s Still a Post, Right?)

Hi guys.

How are you? Who are you? Does anyone read this blog anymore? Please comment if you do, so I believe you. (No, seriously. Do it.)

Life is good. Not much to report.

Job’s good. (I truly love what I do.)

Apartment’s good (and almost finished!).

Family’s good. (And strong. We lost the world’s sweetest dog, Emma, last week. And slowly but surely, we’re healing.)

I am good.

I’m also about to order a pizza and be the eptiome of a 25-year-old girl who lives alone before heading out.

I’ve never ordered a pizza since I’ve lived on my own before, can you believe it?

That’s all I got.

So, what’s new with you? Really, I want to know.

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Monday February 27th, 2012

That Time I Wrote a Letter to an Inanimate (Even Intangible) Object

Dear Blog,

As soon as I started writing in you, life got busy again and as always, you were the first thing to fall by the wayside.

And I. Am. Sorry.

You see, Blog, if it’s one thing I’ve learned about myself, it’s that while I’m pretty good at multitasking, I can’t really focus on more than one thing at once. I know that sounds like a contradiction, but it’s true. You give me five things to do and a deadline to do ‘em, and they’ll get done right on schedule. But throw me a bunch of changes that require my attention all at once? Well, I put the little things to the side. And as much as I hate to admit it, little Blog, you’re a little thing when I stop and put them all into perspective.

But then I think about it, and I realize that you know what, Blog? You’re what I would classify as a “me” thing, an Ali thing. And what I mean by that is, you’re something that I do solely for me. And by brushing you off when life moves a bit faster than usual, I’m brushing off the fact that I need to come first for myself. Because guess what, Blog? You make me happy. Yes, you! Writing my thoughts in you (sorry Blog, that sounded sorta wrong) gives me clarity and helps me to relax. So damn it if I’m going to take you for granted again.

I hope you understand what I’m saying, Blog. You’ve understood in the past, even when I didn’t verbalize it, so I doubt this time will be any different. Except that it will. Because while there will no doubt be times when I give you less attention than others and you certainly won’t see me all the time, you will be promoted to a priority, like you should’ve been all along.

I think you get the point, so I’ll end this letter here. You probably want to watch the Oscars anyway (can you believe what Sacha Baron Cohen did to Ryan Seacrest?).

Thanks for always being there for me, Blog. You’re a true pal.

Love,

Ali

Monday February 6th, 2012

That Time I Wrote a Fallback Post

The above photo has been my BlackBerry background as of late, so I thought I’d share it.

Today, while doing my walk/jog hybrid I like to do every now and then when a) the weather’s too good to stay inside for and b) I want to remind myself for the 457th time that I’m indeed not a runner, I had this idea for an honest-as-hell post. But then the day got away from me and now I’ve lost motivation to put my heart into a post like that.

So until that as-yet-unwritten post gets written, you get this one instead.

How was your weekend?

Mine consisted of:

-Taking my car in to schedule a day for it to get fixed. Actually, that’s not true. It’s going to take a week. And all because I clipped a fence. Yep, a fence. Rental car, here I come…

-Treating myself to lunch at one of my favorite restaurants, Native Foods Café, in my soon-to-be-neighborhood. I love the idea that in just 2 weeks, I’ll be living in the cutest little apartment in the cutest little town.

-A production meeting for NewJoCo, my good friend’s production-company-in-the-making. I think big things are in store!

-Enjoying some Superbowl family time over appetizers made by my domestically-gifted sister.

This week, I must book a moving company. If any of you Los Angelenos have recommendations, please let me know!

Have a good week, everyone.

Monday January 23rd, 2012

That Time That I Returned

Well hey.

Remember me?

Normally (read: back when I was over at The Way I See It), I’d be all apologetic and red as a tomato with shame and embarrassment. I mean, to call yourself a blogger, you should probably…blog.

But the way I see it (whoops, bringin’ it back), you’ve gotta blog when you want to blog. I know this is something that’s been said time and time again, but that’s probably because it’s true. I was never one to really give two craps about how many followers I had. I started blogging a few years ago as a writing outlet. I mean, back then I was convinced I was the next Carrie Bradshaw. No, really…everyone was saying that back then but I was different. I am from New York! I have blond hair! My dating life is absolutely laughable sometimes! I love sugary cocktails! I was gonna be the successful exception. So I started to blog to keep my mojo going, my muscles strong. Then I realized that there was more to blogging than…well, than blogging. There were bloggers, people whose writing I looked forward to reading so much that I began to feel like I knew them. But in reality (boom, subconscious new blog name incorporation!), I didn’t. So then I found myself wanting to actually meet them…in person. And the best part was (and still is), most bloggers feel the same way. So I did. I met all of these people; some of whose blogs I read, some whom I would’ve never known existed otherwise.

In short, blogging opened up an entirely new world for me. (Yeah yeah, join the club, right? Just speaking the truth.)

The reason I’ve been MIA is twofold:

1) I didn’t have time (psh, I know, you make time; fine, I got lazy)

2) I wanted a fresh start.

Piggybacking off of #2, like many bloggers, I had grown tired of my blog. The name, the scattered content, the look…I wanted a fresh start, damnit.

(Side note: I’m sort of obsessed with fresh starts.)

So, with the help of Doni (Blogger to WordPress transition extraordinaire) and Ashley (the master behind this shiny new look), here I am.

Ali in Reality.

I’ve gotta admit, whether I should be or not, I’m pretty damn proud of this blog name. I guess I owe it to the universe that it was accommodating enough to actually put my name (Ali) into the name of the industry I work in (reality). So, thank you universe. You’ve given my blog an identity.

Anyway, here’s what to expect around here.

Lots of me. Yep, that’s just as narcissistic as its implication. I don’t consider myself that interesting of a person, really I don’t. But I do consider myself an interesting writer, and who knows? You may disagree with the first statement and find me interesting enough to actually enjoy reading my blog. (Which would be a huge bonus.) I am making a concerted effort this time around not to censor myself as much as I used to. Now, that’s not to say that I’ll throw around the F-bomb like it’s [insert clever analogy here since I can't think of one] and/or discuss my latest one night stand (if you know me, you’ll know how ludicrous that one is). This is just to say that I’m gonna be much more…me.

A little bit of what I do. I was lucky enough this year to realize what I want to do with my life. My passion for television production couldn’t have developed in a more organic way, and for this I feel so, so blessed. And to honor the name of my blog, I figured it might be fun to incorporate a little bit of that side of my life into it. I’m still figuring out exactly how I’d like to do this.

I’m still figuring out a lot around here, actually. You’ve probably noticed that those links you can click above this post? There’s nothing there! Ashley and I are still working on that, but I just didn’t want to wait any longer to blog again. Which brings me to my final point (thank God)…

I’ve really, really missed this. Even during my blogging hiatus, keeping up-to-date on my Google Reader remained a routine part of my day, one of my favorite parts. And now that I can be a part of it again, I feel just a little happier with my life.

So here we are.

It’s good to be back.